Pain during sex — medically called dyspareunia — is far more common than most people admit. Estimates suggest that anywhere from 10–20% of women experience it regularly. Yet it's still something people suffer through quietly, assuming it's normal or that nothing can be done.
It's not always your fault, and it's often fixable. Here's what's happening and what actually helps.
Common causes of pain during sex
Insufficient lubrication
The most common and most easily addressed cause. When there isn't enough lubrication — whether from insufficient arousal, hormonal factors, stress, or medication — friction causes microtears in delicate vaginal and vulvar tissue. This registers as burning, stinging, or rawness during or after sex.
A quality water-based personal lubricant addresses this directly. slyp is formulated to provide smooth, lasting lubrication without the irritants (glycerin, fragrance, parabens) that can make sensitive tissue worse.
Vaginismus
Involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles that makes penetration painful or impossible. This is often psychological in origin — anticipatory anxiety causing a physical response. Treatment involves a combination of pelvic floor physical therapy, psychological support, and gradual desensitisation exercises. Lube alone doesn't fix vaginismus, but it can reduce the discomfort during the desensitisation process.
Vulvodynia
Chronic pain in the vulva with no identifiable cause. Often described as burning, stinging, or rawness. Using a gentle, fragrance-free lube can reduce friction-related flares. Avoid any product with potential irritants.
Hormonal changes
Oestrogen affects the thickness and elasticity of vaginal tissue. When oestrogen drops — during breastfeeding, perimenopause, menopause, or on certain hormonal contraceptives — vaginal tissue becomes thinner and drier, making sex more likely to cause pain. A pH-balanced lube in India is the first-line recommendation for managing this.
Endometriosis
A condition where uterine-like tissue grows outside the uterus, often causing deep pain during sex. This requires medical diagnosis and treatment. Lube can reduce surface-level discomfort but won't address the underlying cause.
Infections (BV, yeast, STIs)
Active infections cause inflammation and sensitivity that makes sex painful. Get tested if pain is accompanied by unusual discharge, odour, or itching. Treating the infection resolves the pain.
When to see a doctor
If pain during sex is new, persistent, or worsening — see a doctor. Many causes are treatable. A gynaecologist can rule out infections, assess hormonal factors, and refer to a pelvic floor physiotherapist if needed.
The role of lube
For the majority of people experiencing pain during sex, insufficient lubrication is at least a contributing factor. Starting with a clean, pH-balanced personal lubricant in India like slyp is a simple, low-risk first step — and often makes a meaningful difference on its own.
Try slyp — India's skin-safe, pH-balanced personal lubricant.